I’m really supposed to be packing…Elite Towers is moving to a new location in a few days. Ever the procrastinator though I thought i’d pay my blog a bit of attention instead – it’s been very poorly neglected of late. What’s prompted me to write is a comment made to me by a client in the last few days. I guess it shocked me a little:
“I like your agency Suzy because you don’t let your girls sleep with black men.”
Now I would like to start by saying this isn’t a dig at the client. His prejudices do not concern me, but his perception of our agency does. I’ll mention right now that the above statement is not true. What’s clear is that at some point in the past, one of the Elite girls has told him this supposed statement of fact, either because she had misconstrued something that was said to her during her interview, or simply because she’d never met any black Elite clients and was jumping to conclusions.
The question of race has always has always been hotly debated on punting forums. There are two camps: Camp A who feel sex workers should see anyone regardless of race, age, disability, sex etc (this group almost entirely consists of punters), and Camp B who feel sex workers have the right to choose who they see (consists most sex workers and sensible punters).
You’ve already guessed which camp I am in. Yes, there are discrimination laws and they exist for a very good reason. But you cannot compare working as an accountant or a hairdresser to working as a prostitute. The job is quite unlike any other. To allow a man to penetrate you, stick their tongue and penis in your mouth, to grope and fondle you – these are all incredibly intimate acts. It’s important that both sides are comfortable and up for it. When one side is unwilling and unhappy with the situation…well, we all know what that really means don’t we. Why demand people put themselves in that position?
‘Ah’, Camp A will say ‘you’re providing a service, no different to a plumber, you should be happy to see anyone and everyone and not discriminate.’ The irony is, punters who make these statements are the first ones that complain if they feel a girl is offering a going-through-the-motions type service (yeah, much like a plumber would); they hate feeling like they are one of many and that the girl would prefer to be somewhere else. Newsflash fuck nuts, what makes your favourite girl so hot, so genuine, so passionate, is that she is actually enjoying herself. She has chosen to see you of her own free will. She has not been told that as a hooker, she has to shag anyone and everyone that crosses her path, regardless of her personal preferences, prejudices and turn offs. You can’t have it both fucking ways!
As for us, I will say quite categorically that as an agency we do not exclude people based on the colour of their skin. It’s daft, in our opinion unnecessary and it really makes terrible business sense. But that doesn’t mean we ignore personal preferences and force girls into bookings they are not comfortable with – we are not pimps. We strike a balance.
So who do we exclude as an agency? We do exclude clients (regardless of colour) who have travelled from countries where the incidence of HIV infection is high. We are not going to risk our girls’ health with a client who comes from a country where 20% of the adult population has HIV. You may call that racism, we call it common sense. It’s been drummed into us over many years by NHS GUM clinics and we stick to their advice. I can only assume that in order to satisfy their white, middle-class, armchair liberalism, Camp A would expect us to suck the cocks of these guys uncovered (after all, that’s what we do with British clients). But fuck Camp A – much like crossing the road, sex work is all about taking calculated risks. When we stop calculating those risks, we’re doomed.
For us, race is a minor issue. A far more frequently exercised exclusion is being a MASSIVE DICKHEAD. Camp A can rest easy on this one. In our experience, being a massive dickhead transcends race and political borders.
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